A question was asked in the discord server recently, on how to find the strength/motivation to embark on a path of personal growth.
We all gave great answers- on how to start following that path, but none of us really touched on how to feel more motivated to take those first steps.
This whole positivity thing of mine – it’s no schtick. It’s genuinely the only thing I believe will work. I may turn out to be wrong!
The stuff that I’ve been doing to actively and consciously accelerate my own process of personal growth- it’s all been a result of positivity.
It didn’t result in it.
All that stuff that we’re supposed to do to be healthy – eating/sleeping well, exercising, meditating, even finding ways to be more productive or mentally active – I started doing for other reasons.
And I kept doing them because I really like the way I feel when I’m this high energy.
I don’t like the word happiness. Even positivity; they do so little to convey the whole picture here.
What I’m talking about is something different.
Something like being on cocaine all the time- but with no side effects; except a warm afterglow and increasing feeling of pride.
I suspect it might be something about the reward system in our brains?
Having fun, social interactions – these things are not optional in this process, in my mind.
Certain things release neurotransmitters in our brains that make us feel good, right?
I kind of feel like what those things are, that cause us to feel good- are primarily based on habits.
Based on what our subconscious thinks we should feel good about.
Well- what if we were to start being conscious about that process?
Thinking critically about what makes us feel good, and whether or not those things are really in our best interest?
For me, developing the desire/motivation to begin making actual changes in my life just sort of started happening when I started being more rational about the whys of my own behavior.
I hear people say stuff like: “it’s not good to be too rational” every so often.
But you know what? I think that’s more a problem with a kind of rationality that doesn’t go deep enough.
I only have the ability to write stuff when I am high energy. I just…. Don’t have anything I feel like talking about, when I am not (that’s why I usually only write at the start of the day- not by choice, I’m just too frazzled by the end of a day, usually, to have the kind of energy/clarity to really focus on a topic like this).
Feeling like I might be making a difference in the lives of people around me, in small ways- that feels so good that it becomes exciting to find ways to keep that going. If I don’t take care of myself, I just can’t keep up this kind of energy.
I listen to music pretty much any time I am not directly interacting with another human. That’s one of the primary ways I get the effect of meditation.
I find a playlist that fits where I am, right now, mood-wise, but gets me a little closer to where I want to go. To who I want to be.
And I let it infuse me. I follow the play of the notes through my brain, the vibrations through my bones.
And I am filled by it. I ride songs like rollercoasters.
The things that will make you happy, and feel good- are not going to be the same things that make me happy.
But I feel like we kind of become conditioned to stifle the search for those things, as individuals.
It’s not how things are supposed to work, right? Like, we’re supposed to do all those things we know are required to be a successful human, and happiness will result.
I think, if we’re being honest with ourselves- most of you will probably agree with me that that just isn’t how it happens. Some people seem to be happy, live fulfilling lives, sure.
But can you identify anything external about their lives that sets them apart from all the other people living in similar conditions, working similar jobs, that are not happy?
I believe that if we aren’t happy now, there’s no magical time where things will just switch over, on their own.
I believe that we do that switching.
Which means that you can start, right now.
Is it morning, where you are? Feeling grumpy?
I have a challenge for you: think of two things that are genuinely really nice about your life or environment, right now.
Then tell me if you feel any different.
It only works if it’s real.
There are always things to be appreciated, I believe. In every moment.
We just forget to look for them sometimes, yeah?